Relationship Advice

[rKoNomad316]

Sept 27, 2022 13:24:01 GMT -5 Deep Figure Value said:

"I have a Camaro payment every month"

LOL, no you don't.

This is about as real as Billy's Vette.

screech

Dude the guys GFs brother is a loser. & if he starts giving her $100 a month starting next month he’ll have $300 less for Christmas. Come on.

IDK which story is the all time best. This 1, the Vette, or LJNs figure.

[taker]

 Leave the lad alone for god sake he's got a Camaro. I just hope she's got your tea/dinner on the table when you come home from work and keeps on top of washing an ironing ,cleaning. plus  on the  dinner night out make  sure  she  picks up the check lad , let her be the judge of leaving a tip if she wants ,let her think she's as a bit power she'll like that .two years lad I take my hat off to you ,you should go for a job at the lads  bible  they would hire you on the spot ,tell them taker sent you . anyway the only advice I can give you cos looks like you have all the bases covered ,get her to pay the payments on your Camaro  you have good taste  in women and "CARS"  by the way lad, also just slip it to her if  she  as a bit of free time you couldn't wash me car princess and a wax wouldn't  go amiss  all ways call them princess it knocks them bandy . Relationships are always about give and take I mean I had a bit of a reputation of being a taker back then  but I put that down to just being young not ready for it . anyway I'm glad your  not from Boston the Camaro gave that  away "south maybe'     

     

[bWo]

Sept 24, 2022 21:51:05 GMT -5 theman said:

Sept 24, 2022 21:04:59 GMT -5 bWo said:

A whole one hundred dollars a month? Surely that'll be enough to make demands about when your girlfriend is allowed to have her family over at her apartment to eat her food. I say go for it.

 I don't think it's how much I pay a month as it is that I'm contributing when I don't have to so I should have some say regarding house rules. Also, it's not like I'm without any debt, I have a camaro payment every month. 

Absolutely. I'm sure she'll realize how much effort it takes to put aside $25 dollars a week. That's almost 4 dollars every single day. If she's not satisfied with your contributions than you should take your money and then report her to the IRS and tell them she collected HUNDRED of dollars in rent money that she didn't claim. Show her and her loser brother who's boss.    

[JC Motors]

Asking WFigs for relationship advice is just asking for trouble

[Grumpyoldman]

I'm actually shocked it went this far with no one replying "RKO him!".

[dizneyfist]

Take into consideration she took you in without any conditions. If this living situation is a problem even if you contribute half I'm certain it will be a problem that will affect your relationship.

[alphadeltaxray]

If I lived with my girlfriend rent free and her brother (who I really can't stand) came over once a week to eat our leftovers, you know what I'd do? I would put up with it. Sounds like a very small price to pay for living with a great gf who lets you live there without paying a dime. It sounds like he's nothing more than an annoyance to you.
Look at it this way, it could be a lot worse, he could decide to come over EVERY night or even ask to move in. How would you feel then? Once a week doesn't sound so bad once you put all that into perspective.
As long as he's not stealing your Hulk Hogan figures I don't see the problem.

Idk your situation but you really should try to contribute something to your gf for the rent or bills, but I think you already know this. Good luck, man.

[taker]

Seriously though I'm not here to judge  you. I'm on the side of the Indefensible  . but does her brother know "this" that you don't pay your way and basically taking advantage of her good nature . if not get one of your mates in your language buddy's  to tell him , cos if I had a sister  and found that out  "ME"   coming round to eat your leftovers sorry her leftovers is the least of your bloody problems . she would probably hate ME for it and no doubt scream at me to keep my nose out of her private life and don't set foot in this house again  " problem solved lad"  now you can keep your 300 dollars . what  are you saving up for anyway a special gift for her    or the Christmas ringside sale


  

[Deleted]

Sept 24, 2022 21:52:54 GMT -5 2sweeeeet said:

Bookmarked.

The SECOND I saw the thread title and OP, it was bookmarked.

[GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy]

Sept 29, 2022 15:03:10 GMT -5 @twistedone22388 said:

Sept 24, 2022 21:52:54 GMT -5 2sweeeeet said:

Bookmarked.

The SECOND I saw the thread title and OP, it was bookmarked.

THIRD. I bookmarked too.

[theman]

I don't want you all to get the impression that I have a lot of money and I'm just being greedy or something. My camaro is used, I got a good deal on it and I'm still making payments. Also it's not like I'm a total spounge on my gf, I buy her gifts for birthdays, holidays and I take her out to eat a couple times a month. Her brother doesn't do any of that stuff.

[The Real Chillary]

He will soon. Baller brother kick theman to the curb

[Deep Figure Value]

Sept 30, 2022 13:58:25 GMT -5 The Real Chillary said:

He will soon. Baller brother kick theman to the curb

WELL LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHIN', BROTHER

GF about to send theman's ass to live out back in the tent he bought to camp out for the Ultimate Edition Hogan figure, brother.

[Self-Savior]

RKO him.

[TheXtremisT]

Sept 30, 2022 13:30:06 GMT -5 theman said:

I don't want you all to get the impression that I have a lot of money and I'm just being greedy or something. My camaro is used, I got a good deal on it and I'm still making payments. Also it's not like I'm a total spounge on my gf, I buy her gifts for birthdays, holidays and I take her out to eat a couple times a month. Her brother doesn't do any of that stuff.

See this is the problem with your mindset. It sounds like you're doing that to prove that you're treating her as her bf.

For a lot of people, that is the bare minimum.

Buying gifts for birthdays is NOT proof that you "treat" her. That is expected.

If you don't have much money, then going on holidays or taking her out to eat is not something that is required. She sounds pretty understanding so maybe find ways to reallocate some of that money to pay her for allowing you to live in her home, instead of using it to take her out and make it sound like you're trying to win admiration for it.

There's ways of saving money but still making effort. Explore that in other ways too.

[Deleted]

While this story is certainly fake, sadly, it's like playing a mad-libs game with a lot of actual one sided mooching relationships ....

So, to the hypothetical OP story on the off chance someone else actually in this situation reads it:

Go read Jack's post again. Like 5 times. But I'm challenging him on the 50/50 costs, because not everyone's situations are going to make that reasonable on either side of the equation. Any ideas the man has to have a career with higher earning potential than a women are really outdated. It doesn't mean you get to sit on your ass and be a freeloader, but depending on lines of work there's no reason the dude has to be the one with the higher paying job. I work at a freaking non-profit. I work full time, I make meaningful contributions to society. Far more than if I'm working some big corporate job and bringing in six figures. My wife runs her own private practice for speech therapy. A highly specialized private practice is going to bring in more $$ than a non-profit. I don't feel like any less of a man for not running off and chasing a capitalist ideal compared to being in a line of work that makes a measurable impact on society. That said I actually can cover 50% of the costs, but we're fortunate to be in a city with affordable mortage rates, etc, so it's just our surplus that comes from her. If we lived in a more expensive city it might be 40/60.

OP, you're lying, but your lie paints the story of a very unreasonable human who doesn't understand what it means to be in a relationship. And not paying rent doesn't make it "our place". It's hers.

[dynamitekido]

I rarely venture outside of the figure talk here and after reading this thread, that's completely on me. I been missing out over here. LOL

[Deleted]

Wait a minute wait a minute wait a minute....


Is this the same guy who made the post whining about little kids in restaurants!? Holy hell it's been so long. Like I knew he was Hogan guy but man, how could I have forgotten.

[saintegenevieve]

Sept 24, 2022 19:54:20 GMT -5 theman said:

I know a few people on these forums like to poke fun at me for whatever reason but I'm hoping I can get a few serious answers about this. Anywho, I moved into my girlfriends house a few years ago and she is really really great. She's never asked me to pay rent or anything. It's been great but her brother has become a problem. He's sort of a loser always in between jobs and for the past couple of months he has stayed over at our place just about every Saturday night I think just to eat our food since thats the night we go out to eat and we always have left overs. Since I don't pay rent I know I can't really say anything but I've been thinking if I give my gf a hundred dollars a month for a few months then maybe it would be ok for me to demand her brother limit his visits to once or twice a month. Of course I won't say anything when I first give her the hundred dollars, I will pretend I'm doing it just to be nice. The only thing I'm worried about if I start next month then  I will be losing three hundred dollars for Christmas but I don't think I can wait until after new years. What do you guys think?? 

GrumpyOldMan asked a great question: what's the age of your triad?

I think it's extraordinarily depressing that we live in an age where so many relationships are fractured from a lack of virtue. The ancient notion of Humility is to surrender one's self to God and to live in unison. Since we are Fallen, that is very difficult to do even if we are to strive toward perfecting that relationship. I would suggest that you pay attention. Take that dynamic, contemplate it, then apply this to a relationship, which, in unity, the two should each surrender part of one's self, desires, passions, toward an ever-perfect state of unity. That's just a question of telos

In your case, though it's difficult to say what are the real power dynamics going on, you seem to have little shame about your contributions to the family, and she's just as much enabling you. Men get paid more, are stronger, have fewer monthly issues, and they evolutionarily can leave a relationship since they don't have the burden of carrying a child. I think you should consider your own situation as an affront to your masculinity. Shame is a great thing. It takes us from bad to good, good to excellent, excellent to saintly, saintly to Saint. Thinking of a relationship in a transactional sense is setting you up for self-pitying heartbreak since your goodies are no longer available to you, never once cultivating the added virtue from your experience to make you a greater iteration of yourself.

She obviously loves her brother. Does he have mitigating issues like trauma, lack of direction, or is just lost in the aimlessness of consumerist culture creating an atomized individual with no roots, history, or Higher values to which to aspire? I really pity people like that. Family is the most basic bond of socialization. It's the root. She will choose him over you, especially if your motives clearly suggest that your ethics are as sound as a merchant's. But then you would have learned nothing for the only aspect that you wish to get out of this relationship is that transaction. This is just a form of male prostitution, choosing Avarice over Eros. Eros obliges that you contribute

Like others, I do suspect that you're trolling. However, what I'm seeing in you is so common nowadays, in part because Higher values are increasingly supplanted by this rot of consumerism, in part because the political economy and material conditions in contradistinction to one another incentivizes such low order behavior. In the event that you're not trolling, please give thoughts to my post. It might inspire you to be a much better person than what I'm seeing. I'm not old but I'm not young either. I've known many crash and burn over the years from your mentality.