theman
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Post by theman on Sept 24, 2022 19:54:20 GMT -5
I know a few people on these forums like to poke fun at me for whatever reason but I'm hoping I can get a few serious answers about this. Anywho, I moved into my girlfriends house a few years ago and she is really really great. She's never asked me to pay rent or anything. It's been great but her brother has become a problem. He's sort of a loser always in between jobs and for the past couple of months he has stayed over at our place just about every Saturday night I think just to eat our food since thats the night we go out to eat and we always have left overs. Since I don't pay rent I know I can't really say anything but I've been thinking if I give my gf a hundred dollars a month for a few months then maybe it would be ok for me to demand her brother limit his visits to once or twice a month. Of course I won't say anything when I first give her the hundred dollars, I will pretend I'm doing it just to be nice. The only thing I'm worried about if I start next month then I will be losing three hundred dollars for Christmas but I don't think I can wait until after new years. What do you guys think??
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Post by The Real Valbroski on Sept 24, 2022 19:59:57 GMT -5
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Post by Mr Angry Cena on Sept 24, 2022 20:12:38 GMT -5
Give her brother the $100 to leave, or maybe I’ll give you $100 to leave.
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Post by bWo on Sept 24, 2022 21:04:59 GMT -5
A whole one hundred dollars a month? Surely that'll be enough to make demands about when your girlfriend is allowed to have her family over at her apartment to eat her food. I say go for it.
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theman
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Post by theman on Sept 24, 2022 21:51:05 GMT -5
A whole one hundred dollars a month? Surely that'll be enough to make demands about when your girlfriend is allowed to have her family over at her apartment to eat her food. I say go for it. I don't think it's how much I pay a month as it is that I'm contributing when I don't have to so I should have some say regarding house rules. Also, it's not like I'm without any debt, I have a camaro payment every month. |
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2sweeeeet
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Post by 2sweeeeet on Sept 24, 2022 21:52:54 GMT -5
Bookmarked.
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Post by Jack Specific on Sept 24, 2022 22:20:57 GMT -5
Here is my opinion... If you moved into your girlfriends house you SHOULD definitely be contributing to the finances... bills, Mortgage (if she has one) or rent if that is what she pays, etc. Even if she owns the house outright and doesn't pay a mortgage, she definitely pays property tax and Homeowners insurance and she will have to ultimately pay for repairs and so on. You want to start now with just $100 a month to be able to say something because you suddenly have a very small, really small financial contribution to the home? You should have been contributing more, much more and since day one. I think you have no right, and still no right to say a thing even with a $100 a month contribution. Remember this is my opinion. I am not trying to degrade you in any way. Maybe you pay some bills, pay for the food or whatnot. I don't know the full situation but I am going by what I read. Also I am old school. I believe a man should work full time (maybe you do, again I don't know the full situation) and a man should at least contribute to half of what the costs are. Maybe if you do that, in my opinion, you would earn the right to say something to the brother.
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Post by ¡Twist Of 45 and 47! on Sept 24, 2022 23:53:15 GMT -5
$100 a month? Don’t go breaking the bank or anything.
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Sept 25, 2022 1:01:40 GMT -5
I think you should take the $100 and find a new girlfriend  I don't think you should kick her brother out if you're not contributing in any other way shape or form. You're lucky that someone let you live rent free, let alone a girlfriend. I'm not trying to be insulting, but the majority of women would be turned off by this kind of behavior. Another thing is this, even if you kick her brother out she's still going to keep ties with him. It's her brother. To some extent it feels like your plan is manipulative, to start offering something with an ulterior motive. If you can't deal with her brother, or family you might have to find someone else. When you're with someone, you lowkey marry their family/culture. What you and the brother should do is maybe start formulating a plan to bring in food/contribute more. |
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Post by Grumpyoldman on Sept 25, 2022 3:56:26 GMT -5
Just out of curiosity, how old are you, your girlfriend & her brother?
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TheXtremisT
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Post by TheXtremisT on Sept 25, 2022 5:40:35 GMT -5
So basically it's not the fact her brother eats your food. Because since you're willing to pay $100 per month, I'd be willing to bet the monetary value of the food he eats must surely come to less than $100.
So instead this is about you not liking him. And by calling him a loser because he's in-between jobs, you are looking down on him - but you're also displaying lower value male behaviour by not pulling your own weight when it comes to bills. You may not own the house, but you should be contributing 50% to the bills and upkeep no matter what she says.
This sounds similar to when someone is criticised in the past by possibly by their father or family for not having a job, and now they're projecting those feelings onto someone else for doing the exact same thing.
This lack of accountability when it comes to bills needs to stop. And you have no say in how often her brother comes over unless you part own the home.
You need to grow in maturity and see the situation with fresh eyes.
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Post by K5 on Sept 25, 2022 10:32:19 GMT -5
guys, he’s a troll. cmon
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The Real Chillary
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Post by The Real Chillary on Sept 25, 2022 12:14:34 GMT -5
Imagine not paying rent and calling it "our place". I hope she leaves you for her brother.
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Sept 25, 2022 12:21:45 GMT -5
Imagine not paying rent and calling it "our place". I hope she leaves you for her brother. Wait... Doesn't that kind of stuff happen in Alabama? |
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Post by The Real Valbroski on Sept 25, 2022 13:06:52 GMT -5
Imagine not paying rent and calling it "our place". I hope she leaves you for her brother. Wait... Doesn't that kind of stuff happen in Alabama? Nah, Alabama is pretty affordable. |
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Sept 25, 2022 13:18:54 GMT -5
Wait... Doesn't that kind of stuff happen in Alabama? Nah, Alabama is pretty affordable. Nah, Val I think I misread the "leaving OP for her brother part wrong". I thought the family thing was something people do in Alabama. |
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Post by LK3 on Sept 27, 2022 4:12:40 GMT -5
"For whatever reason"
Everything you typed after that opening sentence is one reason.
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fabulous1971
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Post by fabulous1971 on Sept 27, 2022 12:19:35 GMT -5
LOL and you call the brother a loser! Are you one of those entitled guys? Or is girlfriend a code word for "mom" and the "brother" is her boyfriend Carl?
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Post by rKoNomad316 on Sept 27, 2022 12:57:16 GMT -5
What do your buddies from the toy shop have to say about this?
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Post by Deep Figure Value on Sept 27, 2022 13:24:01 GMT -5
"I have a Camaro payment every month" LOL, no you don't.  This is about as real as Billy's Vette. screechEDIT: every time I re-read this I find something new I love. "I live with my girlfriend. I don't pay any rent or contribute to household finances, but her brother is a loser! I have a Camaro." |
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