Wfigs; What's your thoughts on?

[becca]

I went through it with my parents and it sucked. I just got married, and we had been together nearly five years before we got married and lived together for over three, so we are sure that it is what we want. I believe marriage is for life. I know a number of elderly couples who have been married for more than 50 years and are happily in love. That is my goal. Avoid my parents' mistakes and emulate the choices of a smarter generation.

However, I believe divorce can be okay if the marriage wasn't right in the first place. My parents got married because my mom was pregnant, and they really are better off now than when they were married.

[K5]

my thoughts on it are that it is a depressing thing to happen, and i hope it never does to me. it seems people use divorce as an excuse out of the problems of their relationship that they're meant to solve together

[compton]

I think the main problem is that we've got a lot of dumbass kids (i.e my demographic, the 20-30 year olds) just jumping in to marriage before they're ready. That, and society is so different than it was back in the days when divorce was rare. If women weren't happy for any reason, they were expected to quietly deal with it. Now they've got more freedoms and everything. I still say that people getting married way before they are ready is the #1 problem though.

[Jax]

My parents are divorced, but for the sake of me and my sister they get along really well, Which is good to see they arent jumping down each others throats for saying something.

[Bubba Ray DJ]

I think it's caused by adults pressuring 18-24 into getting married way before they are ready.

[Hulkamaniac]

endychavez said:

its obviously unfortunate, but it is what it is...its necessary in most scenarios

I completely and totally disagree. How is it "necessary"? Simply because they don't get along any more? I think people a) get married too quickly and b) don't put enough effort into their marriages.

I agree with Shocker. Divorce shouldn't happen except for infidelity and cases of abuse.

[kanefan18]

My parents were divorced since I was like born and my dad was a pu$$y who left us but I'm straight with it my mom & grandma is all I need because I know when I grow up I am going to be there for my son/daughter.

[carly1988]

suckasays said:

I don't think people take marriage too serious these days. They go into it thinking "Well, if it don't work out, I can just get a divorce". I think people also go into marriage with the idea that the things they don't like about someone will eventually go away and that they can change people. That's not the case and if you have doubts, you shouldn't do it.

BINGO!!!

As many times as i say it, Ill continue to say it...America gets dumber as every generation goes by. Most of our grandparents (the "greatest generation") were married in their late teens and have been married for 50+ years. Then comes the "baby boomers" who knocked it down a notch and stay married for 10-15 years....Then comes my generation and younger who gets married at 18 right out of HS and will be divorced before they are legal to drink. My thoughts are with the way things are now days. You should "date" a person at least 1 maybe 2 years before marriage and another 6mon-1 year before you get engaged. You should really live with them a lengthy time as well. If you can be with someone for 4 years and live with them without killing them then you should be able to pull of marriage

[bjd]

I'm not even going to waste my time or money getting married... there are too many women out there to bone, I don't want to be tied down to just one.

[King Shocker the Monumentous]

bjd said:

I'm not even going to waste my time or money getting married... there are too many women out there to bone, I don't want to be tied down to just one.

*throws away "Mrs. Dinan" T-shirt*

[carly1988]

bjd said:

I'm not even going to waste my time or money getting married... there are too many women out there to bone, I don't want to be tied down to just one.

LOL I always said whenever i think about getting married im just gonna find a woman i dont like and buy her a car and a house ;D

[● kaneisdaman ●]

Well the figure may differ in other countries but here it is 1/3 end in divorce.

I hate it, i consider marriage to be a permanent and lasting thing. One thing that leads to divorces is a lack of a goal or idea for the family and its future.

[Eyce]

kaneisdaman said:

Well the figure may differ in other countries but here it is 1/3 end in divorce.

It's more than that, dude.

[Mr. Old School™]

thehurricane2 said:

Actually, you can legally get married in about 5 minutes. Getting legally divorced takes a minimun of about 2 months, with no disputes or children. If there are children or the divorce is contested, then it typically takes well over a year.

Yeah, I remember the time when Triple H took Stephanie to the Drive-Thru chapel in Las Vegas.

Triple H - "I've got $20 and no time, what can I get?" LOL, that's still funny as hell.

But seriously, divorces can rip a family apart or still keep them together but it won't be the same ever again. Trust me, I know that for a fact.

I've basically got two families. One up here with my real mom and step-dad along with my real brother and half brother and down in Chatham, I've got my real dad with my step-mom and half sister and half brother.

It's a little confusing, but you get used to it over time. Bottom line, I wouldn't wish a divorce on anyone.

[bjd]

carly1988 said:

bjd said:

I'm not even going to waste my time or money getting married... there are too many women out there to bone, I don't want to be tied down to just one.

LOL I always said whenever i think about getting married im just gonna find a woman i dont like and buy her a car and a house ;D

Well last relationship I had that failed I just made a promise to myself to bang every chick willing to let me. I dunno... relationships just aren't for me, I think I just get bored too fast.

[addam]

i hope i never get divorced, that would pretty much ruin me for life i think. i'm pretty sure i'd never ever get married again if my wife & i end up divorced for some reason. i have no problem with divorce in general except for how lightly it's taken by people. the attitude for a lot of people is let's just get married and we'll get divorced if it doesn't work out. once you decide to get married you should be really sure, then commit yourself to work at it if you have problems. not all problems can be worked out, but people should really give it a good honest try before divorcing.

[Kliquid]

It sucks, but I don't believe that two people who are unhappy with one another should have to stay together.

[Get A Rhythm™]

My mom would talk to me in the car about how she was unhappy and I knew it was coming when she took a week off from work to visit her friend in Florida. When she came back, my dad had written a letter saying that things would be better (my parents were more like roommates than husband and wife.. no fighting, just lived separate lives). My dad tried to give my mom the letter downstairs, and I was upstairs listening through the floor boards and heard my mom say "No. I'm through." It was tough. I cried a lot and when on many walks by myself to think about things. But right now I can honestly say that I am as happy as I have ever been. My dad lives a street down from me, has his own house, and I like his girlfriend, and I live with my mom, and I love her fiance. Things couldn't be better right now.

[T R W]

Hide your wives, daughters, and mothers, TRW is officially single again.

[bjd]

thehurricane2 said:

Hide your wives, daughters, and mothers, TRW is officially single again.

a/s/l?